Perhaps this is your current situation: being placed on a performance improvement plan (PIP) can feel like a punch to the gut. It’s feedback but it also comes loaded with fear, doubt, and worry: “Am I failing? Is my job at stake? Do they even want me here?”
But here’s what I want you to know right now: this isn’t the end of your story, reframe it as an opportunity, a turning point that can work in your favour.
In my corporate role in HR and now as a leadership coach, I’ve walked alongside professionals in this exact moment. This silent blend of fear and determination surfaces when your performance is under the microscope.
Here’s how you can navigate the emotional upheaval and not only survive but thrive during your PIP.
1. Feel every emotion, then pause
Your immediate emotions are perfectly valid. For some, it is anger. Others are in shock or feel embarrassed. Yet, a few feel relieved, especially when they've been struggling.
That emotional surge is not weakness; it’s part of being human. Firstly, recognise what you’re feeling and be specific to identify the emotion. That is self-awareness, a key emotional intelligence (EQ) skill.
Secondly, pause, breathe and choose how you want to respond. Journal. Talk it out with someone you trust. Emotional intelligence research shows that acknowledging your feelings can reduce stress and boost performance resilience.
Samantha-Jane Gravett 9 Jul 2025 2. Separate identity from performance
One of the hardest parts about a PIP is how personal it feels but remember: you are not your current performance review. The PIP shouldn’t be a character judgment but rather a roadmap to shift behaviour or achieve different outcomes/results.
Start here:
- List what you love about your job.
- Identify where you know you're strong.
- Then, assess the PIP’s objectives. Are they clear? Are they achievable? This isn’t about fixing you; it’s about alignment and an action plan to get there.
3. Take ownership
Consider this powerful strategy. Approach your manager before the first PIP check-in. Say something like:
“I’ve been reflecting on the feedback and the goals outlined in the PIP, and I’m committed to making meaningful progress. I’ve already started adjusting how I approach [xyz], and I’m tracking what’s working and where I still need to stretch. I know this is a chance to reset and show what I’m capable of, and I’m taking that seriously.”
Such a statement reframes your position from “on thin ice” to “actively choosing improvement.” One Harvard Business Review article advises that well-handled PIPs should feel empowering, not punitive.
4. Develop practical steps
You don’t have to do it alone. The aim here is to turn what seems like negative feedback into positive change through a concrete plan.
Try this:
- Clarify goals: Are they SMART? Specific, measurable, ambitious, relevant, time-bound? HR experts recommend this format as an essential PIP structure.
- Co-create support: Ask for resources such as training, coaching or a mentor.
- Build accountability: Weekly checkpoints, progress notes, and feedback loops.
5. Lean into support
A PIP isn’t meant to be navigated alone; lean into the power of a supportive work environment where feedback and open dialogue can accelerate your growth and rebuild your confidence.
Share your roadmap with someone supportive - this could be a trusted peer, a coach or an HR business partner. Support from an accountability partner can make a real difference.
Penny Petrou and Christine Janse van Rensburg 14 Nov 2022 6. Own the learnings, whatever the outcome
You might make the improvements and flourish. Or, you may discover this role simply isn’t the right fit anymore. Research shows PIPs often precede exits, but that outcome can be a gift, a sign to shift to roles better suited to your strengths.
Whether you stay or leave, here's what you want to get right in the process:
- You’ve practised emotional resilience.
- You’ve owned your growth, or transition.
- You’re not a person who felt silenced; you stepped up and stayed true to your values.
7. Walk away stronger
At the end of the PIP, take time to reflect:
- Review your progress log and celebrate small wins.
- Update your resume with new skills earned.
- Reflect on your growth: “I learned how to communicate clearly. I asked for help. I showed I can adapt. I’m more resilient under pressure.”
Trust that this process is preparing you for whatever comes next.
Emotional resilience is performability
A PIP might feel like a failure until you treat it like a training ground. By leaning in, owning it, and learning from it, you gain emotional resilience and credibility. Performance improvement becomes performance redefined, and that’s the hallmark of a growth mindset and professional maturity.
If you’re facing this right now, remember: you have control and can choose how you want to show up. You are able and capable, even more than you think.
